Relatively new to the Washington, DC area and job searching, my husband conducted a number of informational interviews. Reflecting back on the collective insight others were kind enough to share, he commented that professionals 50 and older offered a perspective a bit different from their younger counterparts. Many of them had seemingly found a balance between hard work and not taking things too seriously, which arguably could make anybody happier. Read Wisdom with Age for more about what research says about ageing and happiness.
“Do you think the over-50 group is happier because they’re now enjoying the benefits of their hard work?” I inquired.
“Well, that has something to do with it, but it’s more than that. They weren’t saying, ‘don’t work hard.’ They would tell you that hard work was imperative for success. But they would also say that all the day-to-day things that we allow ourselves to get wrung up in are, for the most part, not worth the effort.”
This reminds me of advice I once heard – make a practice of writing down all the things that are bothering you and your biggest worries. Each time you revisit what you’ve written, you’ll likely realize that what you were consumed with turned out not to be as monumental as you once thought. For those events that were monumental, you realize that they resolved themselves despite your worrying. I admit, I’ve never actually taken that advice. Maybe I should.