“It’s just unnecessary,” a friend remarked in response to a snide comment made by her graduate school advisor. “He’s an advisor. That’s his job – to be an advisor – whether he likes it or not.”

Assuming you have had a job, any job, at some point in your life, you’ve likely experienced a similar scenario. Experiencing rudeness from colleagues, or those that you were relying on for assistance that clearly wished their job was not their job. Or, yes, admit it, it was you. You were the cranky one saying to yourself, “I can’t take this one more day.” And you took it out on someone else.

We’ve all been there. And sometimes we all wish we could act like my four-year old niece who, in a phone conversation, after answering my question, “You learned the letter H today!? Tell me a word that starts with H?” responded, “Hippo. Okay, Mommy, I’m done,” and passed the phone back to her mother without even offering a goodbye. I found this amusing, but my niece is four, not a colleague.

Who hasn’t at one point wanted to be “done.” Done with the colleague that has a pressing question right when we are ready to leave. Done with a never-ending email exchange of misunderstandings. Done with office politics and done with bureaucracy. And we want to let everyone know it.

The importance of setting boundaries not discounted, being “done” would often mean not doing your job, whether you like your job or not. Maintaining patience and grace is, at times, challenging for everyone. But remind yourself that those asking the questions and making requests that you find irritating may be in the same situation you are. Before you lose your patience, ask yourself if you really want to have the starring role in someone else’s story about “unnecessary” behavior.