One year ago I wrote about the history of Labor Day, suggesting if this Labor Day was our last Labor Day, how would we change our lives so that we wouldn’t regret our chosen path. Self-reflection for the purpose of determining what we want to become is invaluable. Though the exercise of determining what we want to become is limited in it’s ability to help us figure out fulfillment.

What we want to become is an end point with no end. We become what we want to become and, often quickly thereafter, become disillusioned with our achievement.  We find there are unanticipated challenges outside of our control and new potentials that we did not previously consider. Fulfillment eludes us again unless, perhaps, we change our definition.

When we go back to work on Tuesday, instead of asking ourselves, ‘Is this where I want to be?’ we should consider asking ourselves, ‘Am I doing everything I can do? Is there a better place to be to fulfill the goal of who I want to become?’ Unless we find ourselves newly at the beginning we have imagined, we are likely somewhere on the spectrum – past our starting point, not yet to our perceived ideal end. We will be most fulfilled when we figure out that fulfillment is incremental.